My “food blogging” aside I have a few things to speak about. Two things immediately come to mind. One is linguistics related (duh) and another is more social…. Or some adjective dealing with a social life. I’ll need more analysis for the linguistics one, so that could wait. For the social one, it’s slightly more irritating and altogether befuddling as to why I subjected myself to it, but it was good. It at least gave me a little more insight into movement toward growing up.
I wanna do that one. So let’s.
Okay so if y’all remember, I did a blog post about what dates I’d take you on so we’d get to know each other better and all that. I also had a few complaining about this dude that I wasn’t sure about before. Well I am now!!!
Yah, girls, if he’s asking you to go see an explicitly R to X rated film, and he’s refusing to let the movie theatre staff do their jobs with bag checks and keeping the bag don’t signal a red flag, then don’t do like me. Take the hint when he blatantly tells you the soap in the men’s room smells like semen and he’s making unfunny jokes about him taking part in gay porn. And he wants to make out with you on the first day you actually see the boy (via WhatsApp message. When I’m sitting next to him).
Don’t be polite. Don’t let it slide. Don’t ignore it. Just go. No explanations needed. Just go.
That’s not to say I didn’t see the red flags and noted them. But damn I’m too polite.
Punched in him the stomach though after he made a joke saying that his mother is dead. What the hell, macabre!!! I stayed with it. For all five awkward hours. Thank God the movie was long. And bookshop. So my turf, thank God.
I told him we couldn’t see each other again.
I’m not even sorry. But I honestly cannot see myself, respect myself after starting a relationship with that.
Not even gonna get into the educational, financial, religious, ambitious aspects of this. But advice- if none of these matter to you, think about what I describe about a first date with a dude off Tinder.
That was my mistake. I intend to let it go, but remember what I learned from that about high standards and taking things at an easy pace – don’t rush these things.
Secondary school girls. Take my advice. Boys are great! Having a significant other is a key point in your development and should not be shunned. But at the same time, it’s not the only thing. Take it slow, it’ll happen when it happens. But don’t be stagnant either. Bad dates and good dates help you to know what you want and don’t want in an SO.
Develop morals and virtues and standards that will get you an SO that will be appropriate for you.